Best marriage advice I would give even if I never marry

If I were ever to give marriage advice to my siblings or my children, I would suggest keeping their finances separate from those of their partner. We all budget and live differently. Money is a common reason for arguments and divorce, so why not protect your relationship from the start? Of course, I am by no means suggesting hiding from your partner how much you earn. I would, however, divide the family’s budget based on earnings and decide who will cover which expenses.  At the end of the day, living together is hard and takes work, but making conscious choices and communicating openly will assist you in finding the right balance in keeping it “all” together. 
My partner and I used to argue a lot at the beginning of our relationship after the “honeymoon” phase has passed and managed the real world entered. The arguments were often not over the fact who made how much but simply about the difference in the way we both spend our income. I can be frugal when it comes to splurging on clothes but I would be the one to book a weekend getaway or a trip with girlfriends even when I perhaps should not. My partner, on the other hand, would spend more on eating out or shopping, which at the end of the month, would leave him in the red when it comes to paying bills. It did take time (5 years to be exact) for us to start finding our balance and to start discussing finances instead of arguing about them. Of course, there is nothing that prepares you for living together and managing a household. However, open and honest communication is a key to start solving “issues” quicker and avoiding unnecessary arguments over financial disagreements. 
There is no precise science for each family on how to budget and how to spend. There are lots of suggestions and information available and it is trial and error to find what will work for you. However, in my opinion, one of the biggest mistake any couple can make, is not addressing finances before “saying I do”. 

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2018 is here

How is it January 4th already?

It has been a very calm beginning to this year and I am enjoying the slow transition. As a mom, I don’t always find time for myself, not like before I had kids. I do my best but I also live by this theory that you should never stress about little things as there is always something to do tomorrow. In fact, I took 4 days off from work, yet I was able to accomplish zero from my list of things I hoped to accomplish during these 4 days off. All due to the fact that I did not count on one small possibility that one of my children will get sick. C‘est la vie! This unforeseen possibility does help me work on myself and my ‘ life with no regrets’ attitude.  In 4 days, I did manage to safely travel from Slovenia back to Italy with kids in a car, get sick and quickly get better, take care of my sick child, take care of my sick partner, take care of my healthy child, try a new recipe and made a delicious soup, get some groceries, make juice with my son, try to teach my daughter color and matching shape with little success, ordered books to learn English and Russian for my kids, watched loads of TV, laundry and some me time while kids were sleeping. All in all, not bad for 4 days.

Let’s see what tomorrow has in store for me. AVS

Vegan Carrot Soup

I really enjoy cooking and when I can, I like trying out new recipes. Today, I made a very delicious carrot soup:

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Fennel, garlic and ginger
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add carrots and sweet potatoes
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cook with broth and rice milk
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puree and enjoy the soup!

99:99 meaning

Angel Number 99 is a message from your angels that you are to get to work on your Divine life purpose and soul mission. Angel Number 99 is a sign that lightworkers are to step up to their duties and work for the benefit of humanity and the world as a whole. Have faith and trust that your angels are always available for guidance, motivation, support, and love. All you need to do is ask.

Angel Number 99 is a strong message to fully devote yourself to your life’s mission without delay. Listen to your intuition and the guidance from the angels if feeling any fears or doubts about your path and/or purpose.

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Number 1111 encourages you to assist and inspire the human race via your natural abilities, relying upon your inner-wisdom and intuition to guide you.

Happy Birthday to me!

Today this was my phase of the day and I love it. It definitely resonates with who I am:

“The struggle ends when the gratitude begins.” Neale Donald Walsch

This beautiful poem in Russian touched my heart deeply when I read it. I truly enjoy the message it carries.

 Какими бы ни были ваши желания — пусть они сбудутся!
 Какими бы ни были ваши планы — пусть они все свершатся.
 Какими бы ни были ваши близкие — пусть у них у всех будет всё хорошо.
 Каким бы ни было ваше здоровье — пусть оно будет крепче.
 Какой бы ни была ваша любовь — пусть её будет больше.
 Каким бы ни было ваше настроение — пусть оно будет лучше!
 Каким бы ни был ваш мир — пусть он будет более солнечным, красивым и тёплым!

Today I saw 9559 and coincidentally or not all numbers are equal to 1. After googling the meaning of the numbers, here is what I got:

When you begin to see a particular set of numbers flash before your eyes, it means that you should start to concentrate on your goals and even ask for help and guidance from your guardian spirits to achieve those plans. You’re on the right path to fulfilling your life’s purpose, especially if you should see the number of your date of birth appear. But there’s something else you should know.

The sublime number 5 is representative of certain personality attributes. These could be unconventional and life changing traits or lessons learned through progress and understanding. You seem to value freedom and having flexibility in your life. Traveling is one source of having gained wisdom and adaptability.

The precious angel number 9 is considered to be a message that relates to your life’s journey and resolving to fulfill your mission in life. Everyone has a specific purpose and yours is through service. You are a natural humanitarian because it’s the sole reason that you were given breath. You have common sense values when it comes to helping those in need. The angels have come to assist you as you continue your quest in providing for those less fortunate than yourself.

In order to move forward, you must first clean out your closet of friends or situations that no longer are good for you. It will be replaced by something or someone in your favor. You will find this interruption to be valuable. In the meantime, listen to your gut and fill your head with positive, compassionate thoughts and all will be manifested to your liking.

Of course, this day will be always extra special as I got to share my birthday with my amazing grandmother! She is no longer with us, but I know she is watching over me and she knows she holds a special place in my heart! I planted a tree in her honor and I can not wait to see it grow! I love you and miss you so much! We all do!

Babylya and I